The best thing you can DO for someone

is pray for them.

I am convinced that the best thing you can do for someone is pray for them.

If you love someone pray for them.

If someone hurts you, pray for them.

If someone didn’t say hi to you, pray for them.

If someone is passing your mind, take a moment and pray for them.

If you can’t stop thinking about someone, pray for them.

If you like someone pray for them.

If you don’t like someone pray for them.

If someone talks behind your back, pray for them.

If you made a new friend today, pray for them.

If you and someone aren’t friends anymore, pray for them.

If you can’t stand to be in a room with someone pray for them.

If you would like to help someone, pray for them.

But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you. Matthew 5:44

Essentially what we are doing when we pray for someone is we are giving God control of any given situation and giving up the need to always be in control. See, because no matter what the situation is, we always want to DO something. Whether we can’t stop thinking about someone or whether we can’t even be in the same room with another person. In the first case, you might want to come close to them and make your interest of them known to them. Or in the second case you may want to take things in your own hands and do something for that person to know your dislike for them.

In the same way, prayer is essential in this ongoing warfare. Pray hard and long. Pray for your brothers and sisters. Keep your eyes open. Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out. Ephesians 6:18

When we focus on people we lose focus of what matters; God. When we focus on God, He makes sure the right people enter our lives. If someone hurts us and we pray for them we not only bring this person to God’s control but ourselves as well. We find that by praying to God we no longer have the need to talk about this person with someone else. It’s like writing down your grocery list. It clears up space in your mind for other important things. It gives space for things that we should be striving for which is God and his righteousness.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.Philippians 4:6

Let’s give God control of the situation, let’s entrust God with our lives. Because who can have better insight in a person’s life than the one who created him/her and knows their heart. (Psalm 139) So whether you like someone or don’t like someone get out of God’s way, let Him be God and do what He does best. Remember that you are not God and that nothing you can do could possibly transform a person’s life. Only God’s power is transformative.

Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

boss girl and the case of the Mondays


Seriously, what is wrong with Mondays? It is a day full of opportunity, and possibility. I have this outlook about Mondays not because I am an annoying little version of Mary Poppins and think the world is made of sugar and rainbows. (okay, a little bit of that) but the real reason why I can have a positive outlook about Mondays is simply because of this verse: “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it” (Psalm 118:24). This is t h e day, is Monday a day? Yes, so it qualifies as the day that the Lord has made for you, for me, for our neighbors, for the good and the bad and we must rejoice and be glad in it.


And because of this one too,(and a lot of other verses too) “Satisfy us in the morning with your steadfast love, that we may rejoice and be glad all our days” (Psalm 90:14 ESV). This verse doesn’t say, satisfy us with your steadfast love so that we may be glad and rejoice Friday through Sunday. (or whatever days of your choice) It says allllll of our days; really I promise if you open up your Bible you will find that what I’m saying is true. So we can be confident every morning when we ask God to satisfy us today too, on Monday and to be glad. We can start each of our days with an outlook of thankfulness and walk wildly into who God is molding us to be. I promise you can love Mondays too. I feel like “the case of the Mondays” is something that society tries so hard to dip us in and it can even become “cool” to hate Mondays and to have a resting beach face. (Oh, I know) But, I am here to encourage you to be that proverbs 31 woman, to get up with a bright outlook and tackle your tasks every day. You have the power to change your perspective about each day. So here are a few tips for you girl bosses out there to walk the talk and walk wildly and confidently through your days.


1.) Get up an hour earlier than scheduled. This is key to tackle the day with strength dignity and confidence. Give yourself time to fully wake up and appreciate the day. If you wake up late or at your usual time, life hits you like a wave. Before you know it, you have an attitude that is far from kind and gentle. (I’ve been there) So get up earlier sunshine, rise and shine!

2.) Read your Bible. Take time to read at least a chapter, ditch the Instagram feed or whatever social media and trade it for a word of truth. I promise you will feed energized, recharged, and super confident to tackle the day. Talk to God and open up the communication for the rest of the day. Also, whenever someone has something mean to say you can rest in that scripture you read this morning and simply brush that negative comment off.


3.) Exercise at some point on Monday, exercising helps you feel better and more energized. It is also good for your health. If you’re like me though, working out in the morning is tough so just make sure you squeeze some type of workout in your day.

4.) Take about five to ten minutes to be thankful. Write down at least 10 things you are thankful for and take some time to really meditate on the blessings of each day. It is very easy to get swept off by the business of life and start complaining. So instead of investing energy in complaining how about being thankful for your family, that job, or for the opportunity to go to school, etc.

5.) Come up with a quick and easy beauty routine. A set of steps that you can easily do before you leave your house and start your day. I get ready in the morning in about 15-20 minutes. Weighing in the time to put my lunch box together I can be all ready to leave for work in 30 min tops. I really don’t need any longer than that. I will write a separate post on my morning beauty routine on another day. The point is that you take the focus of the morning time from your outer appearance into your inner appearance. Use that precious morning time to soak in the word, to leave your burdens at the feet of Jesus and let him give you the confidence, patience, kindness, humbleness, and courage you need to take on the day.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles or fine clothes” (1 Peter 3:3).

Why “anchored in joy”?


As you may or may not have noticed, my Instagram name is changing from @mimyandrea to @anchoredinjoy. I want to really encourage women of all ages to be anchored in Joy who is Joy? Jesus Christ is Joy, not the butterfly and rainbows type of joy but the joy that exists through the storm and difficult times. The joy that Paul talks about in the letter Phillipians; Because that’s when we really need to be anchored in Joy, in Truth so that no matter how hard the winds blow  against our lives they cannot take us down. Nothing can prevail when we anchor our souls to Joy, Peace, Hope, Love, and this is all found in Christ. He is all of these things and more! 

Hebrews 6:19 is simply one beautiful verse that came alive to me while reading the book of Hebrews. This one verse completely changed the way I react to difficult times, it pointed me to Jesus like no other verse in the Bible. It says, “We have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul, a hope that enters into the inner place behind the curtain,” The book of Hebrews talks about how Jesus is better. Jesus is better than anything and anyone ever before. Why is He better? Because He came to fulfill the law, He came to give us h o p e, being perfect He fulfilled God’s will and served as a living sacrifice for all of our messiness, imperfection, sin, ugliness, flaws, etc. Talk about g r a c e! My heart is full of gratitude when I read about the new covenant that Jesus represents. How He came to make things better, He came to overcome the world. He conquered death by resurrecting on the third day. “Now death where is your sting?” 
As I studied this book this verse stood out to me the most. It says we have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul. Just this one sentence hits me hard. A sure and steadfast anchor… Jesus is a sure and steadfast anchor. There is nothing in this world that is sure and steadfast. No t h i n g. I promise, no matter where you go, what you anchor yourself to, it will all fail, it is all risky business, it is all failing, it changes, it dies, it is imperfect, nothing in this world is sure and steadfast. When we anchor ourselves to anything other than Jesus believing we can live out our purpose we are anchored to faux-anchors.

Friends?As soon as you get yourself in real problems most of your friends walk away and want nothing to do with you. Money? Money is the root of all evil, anchor yourself in money and it will leave you empty, tired, unsatisfied. Alcohol, Drugs, Addictions? Please, we all know and we can see that these are just temporary agents to dull our lives, the hurt doesn’t go away after a night out, there is only regret. The pain doesn’t go away after the hangover, the pain comes back and even worse than before. The dependence of these substances only make you a slave, but I thought you strive for freedom and independence? Family? Don’t get me wrong I absolutely wholeheartedly LOVE my family but they are not my anchors, they are human like myself and we all fail; putting my hopes and expectations on human beings would be foolish. And I speak as a single girl on this: marriage? The idea of love? Dating? All faux anchors! 

God did not create us to find fulfillment and happiness in a partner, He created us for relationship yes, but this doesn’t mean that if I don’t get married at a certain age, or if I don’t have a boyfriend my value decreases or increases. My value doesn’t change depending on worldly things; my value is based on how high the price God paid for me, that He sent His only son to die for me. That’s my value and worth. So again, putting my hope in a human being is only setting myself up for deception and unnecessary pain. 


I listed a few of the things that this world has to offer, when we anchor ourselves to these ideas or things we end up lonely, hurt, depressed, and unsatisfied. Because all else fails but God is the same yesterday, today, and forever. He is a sure and steadfast anchor, He came in human form as Jesus to overcome the world and give us h o p e.

He is my anchor and He can be yours too. When things fail, when everyone turns your back on you and the money runs low, He is there, He listens, He cares, and He loves. His love is something you can encounter by seeking Him wholeheartedly. I promise nothing on this earth has made me feel so loved than when I’m in His presence, at His feet, on my knees and He fills my cup. 

What is an anchor? According to Wikipedia “An anchor is a device, normally made of metal, used to connect a vessel to the bed of a body of water to prevent the craft from drifting due to wind or current. Anchors can either be temporary or permanent. Permanent anchors are used in the creation of a mooring, and are rarely moved; a specialist service is normally needed to move or maintain them.” Now in Hebrews it doesn’t talk about a metal device but God who traded Heaven to have us again and came in the form of a human, who came to make things better, someone who came to give us access to the One and Only True Almighty King. We no longer need to go to a priest to have our requests be made to the Lord. We no longer have to sacrifice animals to give offering. Things changed in the New Testament because we now have Jesus. And He is our anchor, an anchor for the soul. Not a physical anchor that you can throw in the water but an anchor that is for the soul. That goes so deep into your soul that nothing can move it. Life is difficult and following Jesus does not mean we will have it easy. Sometimes following Jesus means things will be harder, people will hate us for His cause, we will often feel like outcasts, like we don’t belong, we will feel lonely and rejected by this world but no matter how hard life wind’s blow against us n o t hi n g can move the anchor of our souls. He is our hope that enters behind the inner curtain and makes a way for us to the father. 

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When I stopped anchoring myself to faux-anchors and anchored myself in Jesus things changed drastically. I no longer felt like a break up was the end of the world. I felt peace because I knew that the One who holds the universe also holds my life. When I stopped looking for affection and approval from the world and I started to self preach Hebrews 6:19 to my life and really clinging to it, when I started  looking up to Jesus I realized all the answers to my questions were found in Him. 

This is my personal verse right now at 23, and it doesn’t have to be yours but I encourage you to know Christ, and to find your verse. I encourage you to have an intentional relationship with the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. 

Because I have experienced great love I have the courage to encourage YOU because I so strongly believe He can satisfy your soul just like He did with mine.


I long to know Him more, to be like Him, for His will to be done and not mine. I long for Him to increase and for myself to decrease. I want to build His Kingdom and not mine. Because He called me His Beloved, because He gave me an identity, a value, and a worth. My whole life is anchored in Him, and I am confident and secure in Him because I know that He is sure and steadfast. 

Sister, I pray that as you read through these words that you may also want to know Him more, I pray that your life may also be anchored in Him. Because if He is for us then nothing can stand against us. 

Prayer: Lord, thank you for sending your only beautiful and perfect son to die on that cross for us. For all of us, good and bad you covered our shame. You made us heirs of the kingdom, you gave us a name and I am overflowing with gratitude that turns into a desire to want to serve you and live out my life for you loving others, being more like you, and fulfilling your will. And I thank you that no matter how “hard” I could work there is nothing I can do to gain your love and acceptance, I thank you because all you want from me is my heart and nothing else. Thank you because you slowly whisper that we don’t have to do a thing, but just be s t i l l and be with you. And I pray that you touch the lives of those beautiful souls reading this and that your truth may be spoken over their lives in your name, Amen. 

turn and take your journey

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I created this wallpaper after reading the book of Deuteronomy and I want to share it with you and also a reminder to go along with it below! To save it on an iPhone simply press and hold down on the image.

<<We have a great God who goes before us, who fights for us, who protects us. He is not a far God but He is near and he invites us to draw near to Him. He invites us to have a relationship with Him. An everyday relationship, the type of relationship that takes up all our thoughts and fulfills our every need. We know this but sometimes we are not fully aware that this is true. Similarly to the Israelites in the desert; we tend to complain, go our own way, and/or simply rebel. Just like the Israelites we go through our own wilderness. How much easier our journey into the promised land would be if we just simply listen from the beginning. If you are identifying with this take heart, our God is a God of mercy and grace. He is always listening to you, He sees you, He knows your heart, and He can’t wait to take you back and delight in you and prosper you. I just wanted to remind you that we have been given the precious gift of freedom through Christ to choose our rights from wrongs. I want to encourage you to seek God in this journey that He wants to take you on. Be still, listen to the word of God, listen closely, you have stayed long enough at this mountain (whether it be a job, a break up, a state of mind) God says it’s been enough, get up and take your Journey.>>

I hope that you are encouraged by this, please feel free to share your thoughts with me by using the box below. Also, let me know if you would like to receive more of these in the future! Have a lovely blessed day!

In Chist,

Mimy Andrea

 

 

On my way to twenty three (7)

 

Well the seventh day before my birthday is about to come to an end but, His mercies are new every day! I’ve got a fried plantain in front of me right now with sour cream. I keep burning my tongue because it is so hot but I want to eat it right now. #patience Anyway, if you’ve been reading these silly posts: I LOVE YOU! Thanks for reading, really,  I would love to learn more about you and get some feedback so feel free to reach out to me either through this website or on Facebook or Instagram and share what stood out to you the most! Shout out to SG, I know you’re reading this, iloveyou! *pats on back*


Here’s a quick recap of the lessons I’ve shared with you so far:

*you can read more on previous posts by clicking here or scrolling down*

1. I have yet sooooooo much to learn.

2. I can’t change anyone, only God can.

3. My mom was right about E VE RY thing.

4. People pleasing is not my thing. I am not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay.

5. I am not perfect, I am flawed and that’s beautiful.

6. I learned to take a day off.

7. Forgive everyone even when they are not sorry.

& today’s three lessons are:

1.) Be patient. Trust the process. Seek God.

Whatever is for you will come. You do not need to rush into anything, especially relationships! I learned to be still in the midst of the waiting period… It’s so much easier to take things into our own hands or so we often think. But it’s not, when we don’t wait and we make things happen, we end up in messy situations. Just like the fried plantains burned my tongue… when something looks good but it is not ready for you, don’t make it happen. Just be patient and whatever needs to happen will eventually happen. Meanwhile, grab a copy of your favorite book, have a coffee and enjoy a sunrise or you know, the little things. At 23, I can honestly say, I have learned to be patient in the midst of waiting and I can write a whole lot on this topic so I’ll just keep it short here, be patient. Trust the process and Seek God!

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Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore, do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious about itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. (ESV) Mathew 6:33-34

2.) Be an active listener and make eye contact with EVERY single one.

Being an active listener is so much more than just being quiet when someone is talking. It is actually paying attention to what they are saying, making eye contact, connecting with them in a personal level, and offering feedback upon request. I’ve learned to be slow to speak and quick to listen. It’s definitely a work in progress but I learn so much from others just by listening to what they have to say. Active listening means I care about you, you matter, and you are important. It’s putting others before yourself.

I read God Girl by HaiLey Dimarco and I could read it every day probably. It taught me so much about how to become a God Girl, not a good girl but a God girl. And one of the biggest lines that stuck out to me is on page 85 and it says “Looking at people in the eyes is kindness. It says to them, ‘You count.’ And it reminds them that we are all part of the same human race. When you avoid looking people in the eyes, you seem cold and unattached, and that doesn’t help to spread the love of Christ but hides it.” I learned that my life is not a movie where I am the star and everyone who is not my family member or close friend is an extra. I learned that my life is a movie where God is the star and we all play equal parts who are just as important as every single person on this earth.

3.) Happiness is not a destination, it’s a journey.

Happiness cannot be achieved by reaching a destination (a dream house, car, job, degree, pair of shoes for example.) Seriously, anything you can think of, if you want it really bad and you think that once you get that job or that house or that husband, <that only then> you will be completely happy, let me tell you this: I don’t know much in life but I have learned that this is completely false. You will not be happy once you reach that milestone because you weren’t happy in the midst of waiting and working for it. Happiness is a journey, a state of mind. Whenever you feel tired and sick of waiting… choose joy.

I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me. Philippians 11-13 (ESV)

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Today, I spent the evening with some of my favorite people at Radical Culture Boston learning about Old Testament Law. We learned about two types of laws: Apodictic Law and Casuistic Law.

Apodictic Law: Direct commands that were generally applicable and taught the Israelites how to fulfill their part of the covenant with God. Leviticus 19:9-14.

Casuistic Law: Instructions for case by case scenarios. They describe certain conditions that may happen in certain types of situations of people. Deuteronomy 15:12-17

By what Pastor Sarah taught, I learned that when God is using the word shall He is using it as a direct command. When there is an “If” followed by a “Then” then those ‘shalls’ in between are only applicable to that certain law and scenario. Only the commandments that He renews in the New Testament are applicable to us today. Even though Old testament law is not applicable today it can certainly teach us a lot about how to love each other and how to treat others with kindness and justice.

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on my way to twenty three (8)

I am eight days away from being a full 23, fearfully and wonderfully made. Knitted together in my mother’s womb, in the secret place, by the hands of The Greatest with a promise that is still in the making. I love to meditate on this every day, every part of me was carefully knitted together in my beautiful mother’s womb. Who am I to criticize God’s work, He made me in His image, to Him I am beautiful, chosen, His most treasured possession.

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For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. (ESV) Psalm 139

Here are today’s three life lessons! (squeelsss.., eeeeek)

1.) People pleasing is not my thing. I am not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay. People pleasing is really not my thing, it was (so I thought) for a very long time, but not anymore. #Grace I have learned that people are so hard to please, you really cannot make everyone like you. When you try to make people like you and they do, you end up not liking yourself. Booo, that’s not so fun because guess who you live with? haaaa yeah! yourself! So, if you don’t like your own self, we are in big trouble. This is how I ended up feeling so sick and tired during past seasons in my life because I was so focused on what people would think about me and I barely ever really asked what God thought of me! When i took my eyes off the people and focused my eyes on Jesus, boy did my life change. This did not mean I now don’t care what people think and I live recklessly without taking into account other people’s feelings, not at all. If anything it taught me that by aiming to be like Jesus people will respect me for not trying to make them like me but for staying true to myself. I am not trying to imitate others so they can like me, I am not in the business of people pleasing… my goal is for Jesus to look to me and say “That’s my girl!” and that is enough.

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Bondservants, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord.
Colossians 3:22 ESV

2.) I am not perfect, I am flawed and that’s beautiful. I learned to point my eyes to Jesus. As I seek more and more of Him, my cry for him to increase and my ol’ self to decrease. Why? Here, I’ll be happy to tell you why : ) see, when I go against what God says I tend to, be selfish, I am angry, I am sad, I am anxious, I am rebellious, I hurt people, I lie, I make fun of people in a cruel way, I hurt myself, I am quick to speak and slow to hear, I judge, I manipulate. And you could say well shouldn’t you want to be a good person naturally without having to read God’s word? Well yeah, we all want to be kind and all that good stuff but we are human! We make mistakes, we get tired, when we live by the flesh and not by the spirit we tend to do things that go against what God intended for us.

When I am in God’s word I am learning (and probably not perfected it but it’s a process) to be selfless, to think of others before I think of myself, to speak truth, to guard my heart, to be slow to speak and fast to hear, to be slow to anger, to not sin when I get angry, to think of others higher than myself, to love, to accept, to obey my parents, to respect my elders, to respect authority, to be content in every situation etc. I am learning all these things not by my self but God is teaching me and when I tire, I can come to Him, He listens to me, He fills my cup, and He renews my strength. It’s beautiful to be flawed because I can sit at the feet of Jesus and learn all about Him, to be more like Him, to walk like Him, to treat others as He treated them not as church goers do but as Jesus did. So, I stopped looking at the church, I stopped looking at the world, I started looking at Him.

Set your mind on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. Colossians 3:2

3.) I learned to take a day off. Umm yeah, you read that right. I grew up to believe that my worth and identity was solely based on my grades, my professional career, extracurricular activities, talents, etc. you get the picture. So if this was the case, you best believe I was always working. I did not want to fail ever, so I worked hard but maybe too hard and I barely got any time to take care of myself. I was too tired to use face toner, too tired to brush my hair, too tired to come up with an outfit, etc. I’m so glad I learned that rest is so important and that there is nothing wrong with taking a day off. Take time for yourself! Choose sleep, choose joy, choose food. Use your time wisely, feed your body good foods, feed your soul with good soul food. Love yourself and stop waiting for someone to come sweep you off your feet and love you because you will never know what love is if you do not start by loving yourself first. We only give from what we have, if we have abundant love, we will give plenty of love.If we are starved of love, we cannot give what we don’t have.

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. (NIV) Mathew 11:28

(I didn’t take a day off today but I did make some time to get my birthday nails done! I picked three different colors because once you get to a certain age you are no longer scared of the manicurist at the salon and you tell her exactly how you like your nails. Haa jk I was so scared and she was kind of mad but we both got over it and I got three different colors on meu unhas! yay!)

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Song I overplayed this year, Give In | Lecrae

Song just for funsies: I actually love this song so much, it makes my heart sing 🙂 God Girl

Book that taught me a lot: God Girl By Hayley DiMarco

Blogger Spotlight #2

This is kind of a blog, it’s a magazine and they do have blog posts by various authors and it feeds my soul with so much Bible truth. It has helped me so much and I hope that you are blessed by it also! Here is the link: Whole Magazine They post daily devotionals as well and if you are looking for creative ways to get into scripture, again we have a winner!

Today on my way to twenty three, I went to take my mom to the airport, once again I admire her strong character, how brave she is, and how diligent she is. Also, check out her fashion sense!!! My role model!!

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I got to work and to my surprise a sweet coworker brought a delicious oreo cheesecake! Yep, you best believe I enjoyed it so much and of course took a picture to share with you all! I showed her the picture and she approved and asked me to send it to her so she could share it also! #Love Here it is, again #SorryNotSorryIMG_1771.JPG

And here’s a picture of me living the cube life! 1.5 years in the field!

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We are young wild and f r e e. Enduring Vs Living the Single Life

Have you ever been told that because you are young then you should not care, stay out all night, and date date date? I have. I have been told this many times. By close friends, through social media, and I have even said this to my self before.

Now, let’s back up right there… How did I get there? How did I at one point think it was okay to go about my love life by my own means? The only explanation I can come up with is that I was enduring singleness instead of really living my life to the fullest. I was looking left and right for answers, for a comforting word, for anything that would give me true peace and joy. I was in desperate need of attention.

Now, aiming to stay super real and vulnerable with you I will have to admit; I have not gotten this whole ‘being content in singleness’ thing figured out. There are moments of doubt, fear, and anxiousness. I will not sit here and give you a formula or recipe to never feel doubtful, fearful, or anxious. Because there really isn’t one. We are all human and we all have our ups and downs. (see below)

Although, I do want to share something with you in hopes that you too will have a perpetual ‘i am loved’ state of mind. That no matter what wilderness you are going through, you can too, have trust and faith in someONE so much bigger than us, someone so powerful, almighty, merciful, faithful, kind, loving, and I can keep on going on how great our God is. I am not promising a perfect life where nothing goes wrong, I am not saying that all the feelings mentioned above will disappear because trust me they will still sneak up on you when you least expect it.

The lies of the enemy are so subtle, they sneak up on you, planting a small seed that overtime only becomes self-destruction, it only leads you to pain, deception, and hurt. Because that is what the devil intends. I like the way Lauren Chandler puts it in her book, Steadfast Love:”Whether you know it or not, there is an enemy of our souls who hates steadfast anchors and loves to deceive us into trusting faux-anchors. (fake anchors) His desire to deceive is nothing compared to the steadfast love of the Lord. As we drop the anchor, we steady ourselves for an opposing current.”

Whether you know it or not. Stop right there. Think about that for a sec. Whether we know it or not the enemy is always trying to get us into that anxious state of mind. We sit there and feed into negative, doubtful thoughts and sure enough we end up enduring singleness. Only trying our best but eventually not feeling content, fulfilled, and whole as a single person. The problem is not feeling this way, the problem is feeding into it, digging ourselves into a hole where it is so hard to come out of.

I have been broken down, humbled, and the Lord has been able to really test my heart and what was in it. I did not realize this, I mean, I have always been a ‘church girl’ I have tried to do my best always but it was so much easier to give into sadness and anxiousness because my anchor was not in the Lord. I admit it, He was not first in my life. This really is what it comes down to. Who is in control of your life? Who is in your mind all the time? Who do you depend upon? Who do you follow? Who gives you joy and peace?

There is Someone that completely changed my life all around but staying on topic… my outlook on my love life. Someone who met me at my darkest, lowest, saddest. Someone who decided to reach out to me, to love me when I felt so unlovable. I didn’t know I had the answer all along. It was sitting beside my bed all these years, I had just not realized it. I found so many truths, truths that were proven to me in a real tangible way. I felt the true love, how He pursued me. I always read the Bible, but it rarely ever came alive, it rarely ever comforted me.  Ever since I gave my entire life to Him, when I read God’s word it comes alive every time. You know that verse, “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path” (See Psalm 119:105) ? THAT VERSE is foreal! His word is really a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. That is another topic for another day though.

God definitely used the time of brokenness and pain to bring me closer to Him. When i fell down to my knees, that’s when he met me. Right beside me, HE was there all this time. I have this hope as a sure and steadfast anchor of my soul, a hope that enters into the inner place behind the curtain. (See, Hebrews 6:19)

God had revealed himself to me in many seasons of my life, I had seen His hand move in my life. But, I had not given Him control of every area. He used a break up to teach me that I had to let go of my pride. Through that break up I came back to His feet. More thirsty than ever, more desperate, seeking him whole heartedly. He met me. This is what I want you to take from this. He meets us at our darkest points in life and He gives us what is best for us. If we seek Him wholeheartedly, He reveals Himself. There really is no better place to be than at the feet of Jesus. The joy, peace, and comfort I have found at His feet is all I ever needed. He knew that, He did whatever it took to have me back.

I want to take this last paragraph to recommend a book that changed my life. It opened up my eyes to the truth. It pointed me to God’s word in such a beautiful way where I started reading the Bible as a love letter. A letter directly to me. You have to read this book, even though two married woman wrote it, (because I was hesitant to read it tbh I thought well they are married and im not) but they write with such love, humbleness, and realness. The book is called Spoken For by Alyssa Bethke and Robin Jones. Must read.

The Bible to me is not just a book, it’s my love letter, it’s where I come closer to God, where I get to know Him. My favorite scripture is Psalm 139. This is God telling me He knows me, He created me and nothing is a secret to Him. Wherever I go, whatever I say, He already knows it. So why should I worry about my future when I know who holds it! When I point my eyes to Jesus, when I stop looking left and right but look up to my creator, my beloved, my comforter, my peace, my joy, there really is no room for the enemy’s lies to set up tent in my heart. As soon as doubts and fears try to overflow me, I look up to Jesus and I am able to be still in His presence knowing that He has plans of Hope for my future, of prosperity(See, Jeremiah 29:11). I trust him completely knowing in his perfect timing He will unfold His plans for me. Through it all, I am just focusing on Him, on drawing close to Him (See, Hebrews 4:16)

I want to encourage you to dig through Scripture and take verses, chapters, anything that hits home, take it and make it yours as the Lord has given His word to us. Once you start meditating on these truths your focus will shift to seek the Lord and all His righteousness and everything will be added to you. This is a promise found in the Bible and I am writing to you as a single girl who has all her trust in the Almighty God that whatever is for me, He will provide. For now, I will just focus on loving him, serving him by serving my community, and preparing myself to be the wife God is making me to be. Walking by Faith and never by sight. (See Hebrews 11)

JLm&Y, thanks for reading!

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