on my way to twenty three (4)

Today marks four days left until my birthday! (yay!) As you can tell I am super excited about turning 23, I have so much to be thankful for! Today I am sharing 4 life lessons I learned this year and what hopefully every 23 year old should consider! I am hoping this is a blessing to you beautiful friend reading this!

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Photo By: Nelson Salas
Lesson 8 through 11 of 23 *for 1-7 scroll down to previous posts*

8. I don’t have everything figured out and IT’S OKAY! (phew)

According to society, by 23 I should have my life together. I should be married, or at least dating trying to find “the one” (because what’s wrong with me if I’m still single right?) I should have a college degree, a stable job, a house, a car, have climbed Mount Everest twice, you get the point, yes? While these things are amazing to achieve, and for those who have (I’m happy for you) I learned that I shouldn’t live by society’s standards. I’m 23 and I may not have everything figured out but it’s okay that I am still trying to navigate life’s lessons. There is a time for everything and if some of those things haven’t happened for me yet, I am trusting that eventually (at the right time) they will. God’s timing is perfect and I believe He has everything under control.

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven. Eclesiastes 3:1

9. Honor, Respect, and Appreciate your elders (and their wisdom).

Has anyone who is older than you ever tried giving you advice and you thought, “ummm no thanks, nobody can tell me how to live my life.” Well, I did more than once! (i know right? what mimy? you’re not little miss perfect?) I have learned from my past mistakes and I’ve learned that whoever is older than me or younger may and could have great life advice! I learned to take advice from people who mean well, people who have been through  life already, I mean who else could be better to tell you, “watch out, there’s moving sand ahead than that one who was able to survive it.” So, this is golden for me, I try to talk to as many people and by talk I mean listen to what they have to say. Both of my grandmothers live in Guatemala and I wish I could spend more time with them, when they visit I soak up in hearing their life stories and lessons. I am proud to say I have been blessed with two 82 year old lovely friends named Myrna and Octulia. They are both amazing woman who have lived through life and I know that whatever they have to say to me I can dig up priceless advice for my life. #winning #wordsforthewise

Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for God opposes the proud but gives grace to t0he humble.1 Peter 5:5

10. Less is more. Don’t be a hoarder. Blessed to Bless.

Seriously! Why did it take me this long to realize I do not need so. much. stuff. I don’t need 5 different eye shadow palettes, I wear the same color eye shadow almost every day! Or 5 shirts that are the same but “not the same.” Or what felt like a million different sweaters. I am fine without an endless shoe collection, but I know that’s probably just me. When clearing out my closet and my room I felt so much better like I have so much space to breathe now and not because my room is huge but because I have less! Not to mention that donating is such a rewarding experience. I realized I am blessed to bless.

Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Mathew 6:19-21

11. Step out of your comfort zone while staying true to yourself.

Dare to do things that scare you, that intimidate you, that seem impossible. Have a daring attitude to just go for it, and try it. The worst that could happen is you fail at it and learn from it. Honestly, stepping out of our box makes us grow, it gives us a more open mind, and it makes us feel empowered. But don’t do something “daring” JUST because everyone is doing it. For example, I learned that there are roller coasters I go on and then there are roller coasters i absolutely don’t go on and no peer pressure from anyone no matter who you are is going to make me go on a roller coaster I don’t want to ride. No “the sky is the limit” “you can do anything through Christ who strengthens you” is going to make me do something I have no desire whatsoever on doing. At then end of the day you got to stay true to yourself, your standards, your faith, your morals, you get the idea right? So stand your ground, be daring but also be confident in your yes’s and no’s!

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Photo By : Nelson Salas

 

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On my way to twenty three (7)

 

Well the seventh day before my birthday is about to come to an end but, His mercies are new every day! I’ve got a fried plantain in front of me right now with sour cream. I keep burning my tongue because it is so hot but I want to eat it right now. #patience Anyway, if you’ve been reading these silly posts: I LOVE YOU! Thanks for reading, really,  I would love to learn more about you and get some feedback so feel free to reach out to me either through this website or on Facebook or Instagram and share what stood out to you the most! Shout out to SG, I know you’re reading this, iloveyou! *pats on back*


Here’s a quick recap of the lessons I’ve shared with you so far:

*you can read more on previous posts by clicking here or scrolling down*

1. I have yet sooooooo much to learn.

2. I can’t change anyone, only God can.

3. My mom was right about E VE RY thing.

4. People pleasing is not my thing. I am not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay.

5. I am not perfect, I am flawed and that’s beautiful.

6. I learned to take a day off.

7. Forgive everyone even when they are not sorry.

& today’s three lessons are:

1.) Be patient. Trust the process. Seek God.

Whatever is for you will come. You do not need to rush into anything, especially relationships! I learned to be still in the midst of the waiting period… It’s so much easier to take things into our own hands or so we often think. But it’s not, when we don’t wait and we make things happen, we end up in messy situations. Just like the fried plantains burned my tongue… when something looks good but it is not ready for you, don’t make it happen. Just be patient and whatever needs to happen will eventually happen. Meanwhile, grab a copy of your favorite book, have a coffee and enjoy a sunrise or you know, the little things. At 23, I can honestly say, I have learned to be patient in the midst of waiting and I can write a whole lot on this topic so I’ll just keep it short here, be patient. Trust the process and Seek God!

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Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore, do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious about itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. (ESV) Mathew 6:33-34

2.) Be an active listener and make eye contact with EVERY single one.

Being an active listener is so much more than just being quiet when someone is talking. It is actually paying attention to what they are saying, making eye contact, connecting with them in a personal level, and offering feedback upon request. I’ve learned to be slow to speak and quick to listen. It’s definitely a work in progress but I learn so much from others just by listening to what they have to say. Active listening means I care about you, you matter, and you are important. It’s putting others before yourself.

I read God Girl by HaiLey Dimarco and I could read it every day probably. It taught me so much about how to become a God Girl, not a good girl but a God girl. And one of the biggest lines that stuck out to me is on page 85 and it says “Looking at people in the eyes is kindness. It says to them, ‘You count.’ And it reminds them that we are all part of the same human race. When you avoid looking people in the eyes, you seem cold and unattached, and that doesn’t help to spread the love of Christ but hides it.” I learned that my life is not a movie where I am the star and everyone who is not my family member or close friend is an extra. I learned that my life is a movie where God is the star and we all play equal parts who are just as important as every single person on this earth.

3.) Happiness is not a destination, it’s a journey.

Happiness cannot be achieved by reaching a destination (a dream house, car, job, degree, pair of shoes for example.) Seriously, anything you can think of, if you want it really bad and you think that once you get that job or that house or that husband, <that only then> you will be completely happy, let me tell you this: I don’t know much in life but I have learned that this is completely false. You will not be happy once you reach that milestone because you weren’t happy in the midst of waiting and working for it. Happiness is a journey, a state of mind. Whenever you feel tired and sick of waiting… choose joy.

I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me. Philippians 11-13 (ESV)

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Today, I spent the evening with some of my favorite people at Radical Culture Boston learning about Old Testament Law. We learned about two types of laws: Apodictic Law and Casuistic Law.

Apodictic Law: Direct commands that were generally applicable and taught the Israelites how to fulfill their part of the covenant with God. Leviticus 19:9-14.

Casuistic Law: Instructions for case by case scenarios. They describe certain conditions that may happen in certain types of situations of people. Deuteronomy 15:12-17

By what Pastor Sarah taught, I learned that when God is using the word shall He is using it as a direct command. When there is an “If” followed by a “Then” then those ‘shalls’ in between are only applicable to that certain law and scenario. Only the commandments that He renews in the New Testament are applicable to us today. Even though Old testament law is not applicable today it can certainly teach us a lot about how to love each other and how to treat others with kindness and justice.

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A journey is when you go on a journey

What does it mean to mean something? it means that you mean what you mean. But, how do we know we really mean what we mean and what it means to mean something?

Well, that’s a glimpse of how I feel when I am doubtful, fearful, and wandering. I need an answer and I used to look everywhere for it. No one and nothing could give me the answer I was looking for.

Who do you go to when you doubt Jesus? You go to Jesus Himself and cry out to him, surely enough He answered me and I cannot wait to share real life stories with you. I will write about how Jesus’ hand moved in my brothers life from beginning to where He is now, (He is truly a miracle of God) How Jesus saved me from an undercover shoot out in Revere Ma that I innocently walked by. How He sustained me and held me through four years of college being an undocumented immigrant. How he took me and my family out of a flooded basement. How Jesus was with me in the train ride to high school my freshman year in New York and the things I saw there. How through all of life Jesus has always been there with me and if I had not seen it or felt it, that was all on me. But now, I see Him and feel him and all of what He’s done for me, He did it because He loves me and not because I lived a certain life style. The things I did, and do every day do NOT define who Jesus is and I hope that I can share that with you in case you did not know. I’m sorry if you have encountered a pastor or a leader that has made you doubt in your faith or has made you stumble leading you to walk away from the Lord. I hope that you stay with me and that you give me a read.

I pray over these words and all I want to be is a source for God to speak to your life through what He is done in mine. Jesus is Lord of steadfast love and He does not control us, He only loves us and sustains us. He makes the sun rise over good and evil. With that being said, I am nothing and no one. “Just an instrument in the hands of the greatest” (had to quote my fave rapper Lecrae) So yeah, I am no one really, I’m not so interesting and maybe my life could be boring at times so if I was going to talk all about me I probably would not have much to say. It’s Him, He is the one, He is everything and I want to take this resource to glorify Him and share with nonbelievers about what I found and what in His name I pray you are able to find as well and that you are able to believe also.

This blog is the beginning of a journey where I will intentionally document life moments where I find joy and also life moments where things are hard and it’s harder to find that joy that we are commanded to live with. I aim to be super real with whoever is reading this and that my journey can not only entertain you but mainly inspire you, help you, minister you in any way possible. If my contribution to your day is 2% then I’ll take that! I know that the Lord is good and my focus is to shadow him and be an example of what it’s like to put all your trust in Him.

So, welcome and I hope you join me every week for a glimpse of real in a world full of make believe. Thanks for reading, be blessed.

JLY&M

Mimy Andrea.